The idea that life proves awful, terrible, horrible or catastrophic when things do not go the way you would like them to go.
Wow. I definitely struggle with this one. I tend to think that if something goes wrong, that my life will invariably be destroyed. A perfect example of that is when my car was totaled almost ten years ago. I was rear ended a few days after buying the car, and I sobbed for hours. My dad told me, “We’ll get you another car,” and I truly believed that I would never be able to find another car. As far as I was concerned, that was the last car in the world. After I bought the car, all car companies shut down production and all car dealerships put snipers on the roof to shoot potential customers. I found another car. Actually, the new car was better than my original car, and I drove it for 120,000 miles.
I wonder if I have become calmer in the past few years since I started my new career in software support. In my job, I often force myself to stay calm, to breathe normally, and to simply step back and relax. Even when things don’t go the way I expect, I can usually solve the problem. I think that this has helped me become more resilient in my personal life.